A Core Values Discovery

The two values that guide you through change.

In these times, it feels like our values are constantly being tested. Being securely rooted in your values is key to feeling whole and aligned despite what is happening in the outside world. The people who move through change with clarity aren't the ones with a long list of values. They're the ones who know the two that hold everything else up.

This exercise, drawn from the work of Brené Brown's Dare to Lead and the iPEC Core Energy Coaching framework, will guide you through four moves: explore a broad list, narrow it down, choose your two, and reflect on what living them looks like in practice.

Takes about 15–20 minutes. There are no right answers, and you can't finish this "wrong." Trust your gut — the values that feel the most you are the ones worth choosing.

First, a little about you

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Step 1 of 4 — Explore

What resonates?

Read through the list and tap every value that feels true to who you are, or who you're becoming. Don't overthink it. If a word catches you, select it.

Aim for around 15. You might select more on the first pass and trim down, or select fewer if the list feels clear. Either is fine.

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Step 2 of 4 — Narrow

Narrow to five.

Of the values you chose, which five matter most? Select your top 5 — the ones you'd protect even if it cost you something to keep them.

If a value feels like a behavior rather than a belief, it's probably not a core value. Values are a layer deeper. Keep asking, "what's underneath this?"

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Step 3 of 4 — Choose

Now, the hard part: two.

Brené Brown's research suggests most of us really only operate from two core values. Not because the others don't matter — they do — but because two is enough to guide every decision. Pick the two you cannot live without.

A useful test: if these two were the only values you could live by, would the others still get taken care of? Often, the answer is yes. Your top two tend to generate the rest.

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Step 4 of 4 — Reflect

Living into your values.

A value you can't describe in action is just a word. For each of your two values, answer the prompts below. This is where the real work begins.

Your Core Values

Here they are.

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